Dear Husbands,
Tis the season to be jolly, for yourselves, your children, your co-workers, and many other deserving people. You know who might not be feeling all that jolly right now?
Your wife.
It does seem to fall on the woman of the house to get the Christmas cheer up and running, to keep it going and to make all things magical. I’m not bashing you, I know a lot of you do your part with shopping and wrapping and dragging boxes of decorations around the house. You are usually the ones balancing on ladders in the cold winds getting the lights hooked on to those bloody impossible clips you thought were going to make the chore less arduous.
We appreciate all of that, we really do. (the lights look great, they really do)
However, the considerable mental load of Christmas generally falls upon us and, quite frankly, it’s exhausting.
All of those details, that need to be taken care of, which take up so much mental space and then require time, so much time.
It’s remembering to contribute to the coaches gifts.
It’s remembering all the teachers.
It’s remembering the trash collectors.
It’s remembering to get the cards printed and mailed.
It’s remembering what you gave your mother last year and figuring out what to give her this year.
It’s remembering the mail carrier.
It’s about the UPS guy, the barber, and the hair stylist.
It’s buying and wrapping gifts for your children, your relatives and your friends. So yes a lot of it is shopping and not the fun kind.
It’s about moving that freaky elf around (if you are one of those families I advise you to send the elf back to the North Pole, you are too busy for that nonsense).
It is about getting everyone to all of their rehearsals on time and then attending all the concerts, caroling, recitals and nutcracker performances, all of which take hours.
It’s about making time to do that thing for the kids that she did years ago because she thought it was cute and now it’s a freakin tradition and she can’t get out of it no matter how hard she tries.
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